how to improve your social life WITHOUT the Internet...please help? LONG READ?
ill try to keep it short...ok im a 24 year old female whos kinda been on my own for 2 years and i havent had friends since i was 12 or when i was last in school. i know im not a total nerd or a psycho and can make friends i suppose. (my father was abusive and racist and made me stop talking to my best friend who was black and even beat me up out of my sleep one night when he found out i was talking to her still....anyway for years i was actually out of the school system and lived from state to state in suclusion with my mom sister and a-s-s-hole coke head stepfather who was also abusive to me & my mom...basically i went from one verbal and psychical abusive environment to another all while being alone mostly and the first 17-18 years of my life were hell. and i am also very fat as well , i always have been and still am which has made it hard to attract and keep a good guy. from the time i was 19 to 23 i was sexually promiscuous also. but here are my problems resulting from these things. 1. I havent made friends in years and i work alone as a maid/housekeeper so i dont see anyone anyway so i almost feel like i forgot how to be a friend or dont know how to meet them as an adult.i dont wanna come off as needy or desperate since im not (i can actually be pretty independent) but i feel ashamed as an adult to have not connected with anyone with a planet of 6 billion people 2. i feel like its hard to trust men or believe i deserve love or be in a healthy relationship . ive only had 2 boyfriend (if you can even call thm that) in my whole life. i would really like a man as a friend actually. so bottom line : how do i change my social life?im goin to be 25 this year and im sick of being alone in every single way. im not looking for the coolest people in the world or to go sky diving and gambling in monaco on the weekend with, just someone to talk to , have a beer with and all of that sh-it like a normal person AND YESSSSSS I KNOW I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT and i know this is a gradual process im not expecting to meet the love of my life or make an instant new friend immediately as an adult im just wanting to start somewhere
Friends - 3 Answers
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You have to be outgoing. Its an outgoing world. Im introverted myself but I talk to people tht I feel comfortable with. The thing is you have to love yourself. with self love you have confidence, and confidence is being happy. You may have secluded yourself for soooo long youve probably actually forgot how to make freinds. - i was the same way. Ya got to just go for a walk on a beach or in a park, or downtown. Smile at people.Say hello. You have to project that you are freindly and good willed. Trust well, trust is earned not given. Get out of the house, People at starbucks are always talkative and freindly.. and the thing is you are plain hard on yourself. Instead of saying " I dont have any freinds" tell your self " Its time ive made some freinds." and be happy doing it! because people are interesting, not scary.
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Yea its difficult to answer.
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Dear Craigs List girl: If you were here in town, I would take your for coffee at Denny's and we could talk. The number one priority for you is to make HUMAN contact. You simply must! We are not completely solitary creatures --- most of us enjoy, even need, solitude at times --- but you have had too much. My darling girl, get back in to connecting with someone. Are you involved in a church or synagogue or mosque? Do you have any interests/hobbies? Does your community offer fun classes at the YMCA or college or high school? Do you possess a talent for something like singing or piano or a particular craft --- you could help others learn a skill or language --- something like this? Even attending a support group of some kind might help you re-connect with others. You might give serious consideration to one-on-one counseling. It doesn't have to be long-term, but it may help you to speak to someone about your present life. S/he may offer valuable suggestions and insight that will help you rebuild your life. Try to assess emotional reasons you have isolated yourself. Perhaps, these have lead to your becoming over-weight? Reach out to someone, and keep reaching out until you make some positive steps to a happier and more fulfilling life. I found your question and description of your dilemma articulate and thoughtful. You seem to have soundly assessed your situation. Oh, and are you able to participate in some sort of physical exercise? If so, begin with small increments of activity. I hope some of this has helped, and I wish you the very best.
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
How to improve your social life WITHOUT the Internet...please help? LONG READ
How to improve your social life WITHOUT the Internet...please help? LONG READ?
How to improve your social life WITHOUT the Internet...please help? LONG READ? ill try to keep it short...ok im a 24 year old female whos kinda been on my own for 2 years and i havent had friends since i was 12 or when i was last in school. i know im not a total nerd or a psycho and can make friends i suppose. (my father was abusive and racist and made me stop talking to my best friend who was black and even beat me up out of my sleep one night when he found out i was talking to her still....anyway for years i was actually out of the school system and lived from state to state in suclusion with my mom sister and ********** coke head stepfather who was also abusive to me & my mom...basically i went from one verbal and psychical abusive environment to another all while being alone mostly and the first 17-18 years of my life were hell. and i am also very fat as well , i always have been and still am which has made it hard to attract and keep a good guy. from the time i was 19 to 23 i was sexually promiscuous also. but here are my problems resulting from these things. 1. I havent made friends in years and i work alone as a maid/housekeeper so i dont see anyone anyway so i almost feel like i forgot how to be a friend or dont know how to meet them as an adult.i dont wanna come off as needy or desperate since im not (i can actually be pretty independent) but i feel ashamed as an adult to have not connected with anyone with a planet of 6 billion people 2. i feel like its hard to trust men or believe i deserve love or be in a healthy relationship . ive only had 2 boyfriend (if you can even call thm that) in my whole life. i would really like a man as a friend actually. so bottom line : how do i change my social life?im goin to be 25 this year and im sick of being alone in every single way. im not looking for the coolest people in the world or to go sky diving and gambling in monaco on the weekend with, just someone to talk to , have a beer with and all of that sh-it like a normal person AND YESSSSSS I KNOW I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT and i know this is a gradual process im not expecting to meet the love of my life or make an instant new friend immediately as an adult im just wanting to start somewhere
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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My sister is having this same problem. She's 25, lives alone and works - yet can't make friends. The girls she works with are much older women who have families and such. I've told her to start doing some philanthropy work. She's going to volunteer at ASPCA b/c she loves animals. Maybe you can find something you love and devote time to it and make friends through that?
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Wow....don't think of yourself as a psycho! The internet is a new social trend! But you can change it. Do you volunteer in your local neighborhood? I find it is a great way to socialize, help people, and learn new things about yourself. I often volunteer to meet people or just to get our. Also, community groups like YMCA or Boys and Girls Club are a way to help little kids and meet other adults too. You never know what may happen at any point in your life. Don't let a number define your success in social life, much less compare it to those around you. Sometimes helping others is a great way to re-affirming yourself and learning new things about who you truly are! I wish you the best of luck!!
How to improve your social life WITHOUT the Internet...please help? LONG READ? ill try to keep it short...ok im a 24 year old female whos kinda been on my own for 2 years and i havent had friends since i was 12 or when i was last in school. i know im not a total nerd or a psycho and can make friends i suppose. (my father was abusive and racist and made me stop talking to my best friend who was black and even beat me up out of my sleep one night when he found out i was talking to her still....anyway for years i was actually out of the school system and lived from state to state in suclusion with my mom sister and ********** coke head stepfather who was also abusive to me & my mom...basically i went from one verbal and psychical abusive environment to another all while being alone mostly and the first 17-18 years of my life were hell. and i am also very fat as well , i always have been and still am which has made it hard to attract and keep a good guy. from the time i was 19 to 23 i was sexually promiscuous also. but here are my problems resulting from these things. 1. I havent made friends in years and i work alone as a maid/housekeeper so i dont see anyone anyway so i almost feel like i forgot how to be a friend or dont know how to meet them as an adult.i dont wanna come off as needy or desperate since im not (i can actually be pretty independent) but i feel ashamed as an adult to have not connected with anyone with a planet of 6 billion people 2. i feel like its hard to trust men or believe i deserve love or be in a healthy relationship . ive only had 2 boyfriend (if you can even call thm that) in my whole life. i would really like a man as a friend actually. so bottom line : how do i change my social life?im goin to be 25 this year and im sick of being alone in every single way. im not looking for the coolest people in the world or to go sky diving and gambling in monaco on the weekend with, just someone to talk to , have a beer with and all of that sh-it like a normal person AND YESSSSSS I KNOW I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT and i know this is a gradual process im not expecting to meet the love of my life or make an instant new friend immediately as an adult im just wanting to start somewhere
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
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My sister is having this same problem. She's 25, lives alone and works - yet can't make friends. The girls she works with are much older women who have families and such. I've told her to start doing some philanthropy work. She's going to volunteer at ASPCA b/c she loves animals. Maybe you can find something you love and devote time to it and make friends through that?
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Wow....don't think of yourself as a psycho! The internet is a new social trend! But you can change it. Do you volunteer in your local neighborhood? I find it is a great way to socialize, help people, and learn new things about yourself. I often volunteer to meet people or just to get our. Also, community groups like YMCA or Boys and Girls Club are a way to help little kids and meet other adults too. You never know what may happen at any point in your life. Don't let a number define your success in social life, much less compare it to those around you. Sometimes helping others is a great way to re-affirming yourself and learning new things about who you truly are! I wish you the best of luck!!
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Why are Americans still whining about the economy? Goldman Sachs is already giving out 8-figure bonuses
Why are Americans still whining about the economy? Goldman Sachs is already giving out 8-figure bonuses?
People, I don't know where you live, but I split my time mostly between Dallas, Manhattan, London, and southern France/Monaco, and the economy is doing pretty great. Goldman Sachs will be handing out $10,000,000+ bonuses this year to several employees. That's because the economy has recovered, and people are rolling in the cash. Especially if you work in the financial sector. Goldman Sachs will be handing out an AVERAGE bonus of almost $600,000 per employee. Do you really think they could do that if the economy were bad? My advice to the whiners and the haters is to study hard, get your Ph.D. in something like physics or math, start with a boutique hedge fund as a quantitative/modeling expert, and if you do well, you will get offers to lateral into Goldman's derivatives trading group, and then we're talking about real money - millions in base salary, and the eight-figure bonus. Why are most Americans so dumb? Why don't they just quit whining and hit the books? That's what my dad did back in the day, and now him and his kids enjoy an awesome life. Hate the game, not the playa...
Politics - 8 Answers
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what do you expect? The majority of 0bama's staff, czars, advisors, are ex Goldman Sachs.
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Goldman Sachs is getting its bonuses off the taxpayers back. No whining here--just the facts. *and someone needs to just head over to Mary Tyler Moore's apartment and whine about something else. Some of those "racist" tea partiers are black.
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Why are foreigners always so concerned with American behavior?
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the government gave them billions of dollars to fix everything they messed up, instead they are giving out bonuses. The reason people 'whine about the economy' is because they got laid off and their house forclosed on because they employers could no longer afford to pay them because of bad investments made by companies like Goldman-sachs. Not everyone is an over privelaged brat. You have no idea what you are talking about.
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Your right most are just jealous to me if you can get it god bless.
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Gold Man Sucks
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Goldman sachs stole that money from the taxpayers. If you had money stolen from you, I surmise that you would not like someone telling you to stop whining about it. Of course you would probably just go ask dad for more money.
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I have a degree in electronics engineering, which means that not only did I spend four years in college taking history and english classes, but took basic math, algebra, geometry, trigonometry and calculus. I am also a certified paralegal. I can not find a job because I am "over qualified, not dumb" for even the most basic convenience store jobs. BTW the reason that Goldman Sachs, in the financial sector, is passing out gluttonous bonuses is because financial institutions, like Wall Street, and mismanaged banks and automakers were given billions out of taxpayer coffers. Yes indeed, the economy is doing great for big businesses with our bailout money.
People, I don't know where you live, but I split my time mostly between Dallas, Manhattan, London, and southern France/Monaco, and the economy is doing pretty great. Goldman Sachs will be handing out $10,000,000+ bonuses this year to several employees. That's because the economy has recovered, and people are rolling in the cash. Especially if you work in the financial sector. Goldman Sachs will be handing out an AVERAGE bonus of almost $600,000 per employee. Do you really think they could do that if the economy were bad? My advice to the whiners and the haters is to study hard, get your Ph.D. in something like physics or math, start with a boutique hedge fund as a quantitative/modeling expert, and if you do well, you will get offers to lateral into Goldman's derivatives trading group, and then we're talking about real money - millions in base salary, and the eight-figure bonus. Why are most Americans so dumb? Why don't they just quit whining and hit the books? That's what my dad did back in the day, and now him and his kids enjoy an awesome life. Hate the game, not the playa...
Politics - 8 Answers
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what do you expect? The majority of 0bama's staff, czars, advisors, are ex Goldman Sachs.
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Goldman Sachs is getting its bonuses off the taxpayers back. No whining here--just the facts. *and someone needs to just head over to Mary Tyler Moore's apartment and whine about something else. Some of those "racist" tea partiers are black.
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Why are foreigners always so concerned with American behavior?
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the government gave them billions of dollars to fix everything they messed up, instead they are giving out bonuses. The reason people 'whine about the economy' is because they got laid off and their house forclosed on because they employers could no longer afford to pay them because of bad investments made by companies like Goldman-sachs. Not everyone is an over privelaged brat. You have no idea what you are talking about.
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Your right most are just jealous to me if you can get it god bless.
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Gold Man Sucks
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Goldman sachs stole that money from the taxpayers. If you had money stolen from you, I surmise that you would not like someone telling you to stop whining about it. Of course you would probably just go ask dad for more money.
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I have a degree in electronics engineering, which means that not only did I spend four years in college taking history and english classes, but took basic math, algebra, geometry, trigonometry and calculus. I am also a certified paralegal. I can not find a job because I am "over qualified, not dumb" for even the most basic convenience store jobs. BTW the reason that Goldman Sachs, in the financial sector, is passing out gluttonous bonuses is because financial institutions, like Wall Street, and mismanaged banks and automakers were given billions out of taxpayer coffers. Yes indeed, the economy is doing great for big businesses with our bailout money.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Why do people say that the economy is bad? I'm making more money than ever.
Why do people say that the economy is bad? I'm making more money than ever.?
I'm pretty much an average American dude, and I'm doing just fine in this economy. The economy seems fine to me. I work as a legal adviser for an intellectual property consultancy and venture capital firm. I also do some international consulting for them. Things seem pretty good to me! Our VC arm was well-capitalized before this minor economic slump, and we are on a buying spree, picking up good companies for cheap. My salary has tripled since 2007. In fact, I was recently taking my annual vacation to Monaco and the French Riv, and while things were a little bit slower than usual, there were still plenty of high-rollers, and there was still a waiting list at the car rental agency for their Lambos and Lotuses. I had to book a month in advance. So what the heck are people talking about when they say the economy is "bad" or whatever? Seems pretty good to me! Are Americans just petty whiners, or what?
Politics - 10 Answers
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Is that you Rush? Or are you really Cheney?
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For "most" people, the economy is bad. I work in real estate in California, and since I have recently diversified into staging, insurance, loans, and appraisals, I've been doing pretty good too. I personally do not feel much of an impact from this recession, but I know I am one of the lucky few.
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I do not think that you do make even any decent living. How could you if you are here on YA every single day during business and after business hours.
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Yea, that's it. We're just a nation of whinners! It's pretty obvious you are not American. You sound like maybe you are a bit of a snob? No offense. But unless you live here, post your materialistic crap elsewhere.
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Can I have a "loan"? I'll pay you back...seriously I will. I really need to buy some cheetos....this weed is giving me the munchies! Yes We Did!
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Wow you are very dumb. Just because you are making money then that does not mean anything. Are you watching the news? George bush ruined the economic market. And most americans are just scraping by and jobs are being cut because of fund cuts and pays are being cut 50%, we are spiralin downward, glad obama came when he did. The sttimulus package is coming soon, so maybe it muight get a little better. Are you Rush Limbaugh or Sean Hannity by anychance?
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First, either you are one of the most out of touched ppl that I have run into, with the exception of DUBYA or you are one of the most braggadocios person. You are right, there are ppl getting money FROM THOSE WHO ARE LOSING THEIR JOBS AND HOUSES! YOU ARE IN THE DAM BUSINESS THAT LIED, CHEATED AND OUT LEAVERAGED ITSELF. YOU ARE PART OF THE GROUP THAT GOT US IN THIS MESS WE ARE IN AND YOU ARE RUBBING OUR NOSE IN IT! WOW, you do know about karma, don't you? WOW! I would not want to be you. WOW!
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The only ones not complaining are the top 10% in this country who either have lots of wealth or have professions that are necessary and in demand. The 90% of Americans get a boot in the ass and have to suffer because of the mistakes and greediness of others
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Duh....you selling kool-aid.
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We are doing very well. My husband has been promoted twice over the last year. But since we do have friends and family that have lost their jobs due to the economy and are struggling, we try to keep in mind how very lucky we are. They worked at their jobs just as hard as my husband works at his. They got dumped through no fault of their own, and it's hard to watch them suffer because of it. I work at home and am my own boss, and I continue to do well. It just pays to look around you sometimes instead of (borrowing a Simpson phrase) wallowing in your own crapulence.
I'm pretty much an average American dude, and I'm doing just fine in this economy. The economy seems fine to me. I work as a legal adviser for an intellectual property consultancy and venture capital firm. I also do some international consulting for them. Things seem pretty good to me! Our VC arm was well-capitalized before this minor economic slump, and we are on a buying spree, picking up good companies for cheap. My salary has tripled since 2007. In fact, I was recently taking my annual vacation to Monaco and the French Riv, and while things were a little bit slower than usual, there were still plenty of high-rollers, and there was still a waiting list at the car rental agency for their Lambos and Lotuses. I had to book a month in advance. So what the heck are people talking about when they say the economy is "bad" or whatever? Seems pretty good to me! Are Americans just petty whiners, or what?
Politics - 10 Answers
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Is that you Rush? Or are you really Cheney?
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For "most" people, the economy is bad. I work in real estate in California, and since I have recently diversified into staging, insurance, loans, and appraisals, I've been doing pretty good too. I personally do not feel much of an impact from this recession, but I know I am one of the lucky few.
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I do not think that you do make even any decent living. How could you if you are here on YA every single day during business and after business hours.
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Yea, that's it. We're just a nation of whinners! It's pretty obvious you are not American. You sound like maybe you are a bit of a snob? No offense. But unless you live here, post your materialistic crap elsewhere.
5 :
Can I have a "loan"? I'll pay you back...seriously I will. I really need to buy some cheetos....this weed is giving me the munchies! Yes We Did!
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Wow you are very dumb. Just because you are making money then that does not mean anything. Are you watching the news? George bush ruined the economic market. And most americans are just scraping by and jobs are being cut because of fund cuts and pays are being cut 50%, we are spiralin downward, glad obama came when he did. The sttimulus package is coming soon, so maybe it muight get a little better. Are you Rush Limbaugh or Sean Hannity by anychance?
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First, either you are one of the most out of touched ppl that I have run into, with the exception of DUBYA or you are one of the most braggadocios person. You are right, there are ppl getting money FROM THOSE WHO ARE LOSING THEIR JOBS AND HOUSES! YOU ARE IN THE DAM BUSINESS THAT LIED, CHEATED AND OUT LEAVERAGED ITSELF. YOU ARE PART OF THE GROUP THAT GOT US IN THIS MESS WE ARE IN AND YOU ARE RUBBING OUR NOSE IN IT! WOW, you do know about karma, don't you? WOW! I would not want to be you. WOW!
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The only ones not complaining are the top 10% in this country who either have lots of wealth or have professions that are necessary and in demand. The 90% of Americans get a boot in the ass and have to suffer because of the mistakes and greediness of others
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Duh....you selling kool-aid.
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We are doing very well. My husband has been promoted twice over the last year. But since we do have friends and family that have lost their jobs due to the economy and are struggling, we try to keep in mind how very lucky we are. They worked at their jobs just as hard as my husband works at his. They got dumped through no fault of their own, and it's hard to watch them suffer because of it. I work at home and am my own boss, and I continue to do well. It just pays to look around you sometimes instead of (borrowing a Simpson phrase) wallowing in your own crapulence.
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