How to improve your social life WITHOUT the Internet...please help? LONG READ? ill try to keep it short...ok im a 24 year old female whos kinda been on my own for 2 years and i havent had friends since i was 12 or when i was last in school. i know im not a total nerd or a psycho and can make friends i suppose. (my father was abusive and racist and made me stop talking to my best friend who was black and even beat me up out of my sleep one night when he found out i was talking to her still....anyway for years i was actually out of the school system and lived from state to state in suclusion with my mom sister and ********** coke head stepfather who was also abusive to me & my mom...basically i went from one verbal and psychical abusive environment to another all while being alone mostly and the first 17-18 years of my life were hell. and i am also very fat as well , i always have been and still am which has made it hard to attract and keep a good guy. from the time i was 19 to 23 i was sexually promiscuous also. but here are my problems resulting from these things. 1. I havent made friends in years and i work alone as a maid/housekeeper so i dont see anyone anyway so i almost feel like i forgot how to be a friend or dont know how to meet them as an adult.i dont wanna come off as needy or desperate since im not (i can actually be pretty independent) but i feel ashamed as an adult to have not connected with anyone with a planet of 6 billion people 2. i feel like its hard to trust men or believe i deserve love or be in a healthy relationship . ive only had 2 boyfriend (if you can even call thm that) in my whole life. i would really like a man as a friend actually. so bottom line : how do i change my social life?im goin to be 25 this year and im sick of being alone in every single way. im not looking for the coolest people in the world or to go sky diving and gambling in monaco on the weekend with, just someone to talk to , have a beer with and all of that sh-it like a normal person AND YESSSSSS I KNOW I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT and i know this is a gradual process im not expecting to meet the love of my life or make an instant new friend immediately as an adult im just wanting to start somewhere
Singles & Dating - 2 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
My sister is having this same problem. She's 25, lives alone and works - yet can't make friends. The girls she works with are much older women who have families and such. I've told her to start doing some philanthropy work. She's going to volunteer at ASPCA b/c she loves animals. Maybe you can find something you love and devote time to it and make friends through that?
2 :
Wow....don't think of yourself as a psycho! The internet is a new social trend! But you can change it. Do you volunteer in your local neighborhood? I find it is a great way to socialize, help people, and learn new things about yourself. I often volunteer to meet people or just to get our. Also, community groups like YMCA or Boys and Girls Club are a way to help little kids and meet other adults too. You never know what may happen at any point in your life. Don't let a number define your success in social life, much less compare it to those around you. Sometimes helping others is a great way to re-affirming yourself and learning new things about who you truly are! I wish you the best of luck!!
