we fell in love, however, I (43) am married and he(61) is still living with his x-wife(39). We really completely fell in love with each other, after talking over the phone for just a few hours. He started making plans how we are going to get married and that I will be his wife no matter what. He told me I will need to file for divorce and he will take care of my kids as his own (16 & 20),he sent me beautiful songs and poems and told me marvelous things about my beauty, intelligence and liveliness, how unappreciated I am in my current marriage and how he would never stop telling me how much he loves me and adores me for the rest of his life. I still don't understand what's the rush with marriage, he said we'd be married as soon as my divorce is over to be married in Monte Carlo, Monaco or Hawaii. He knows I don't have much money, but he did emphasize that in California everything is 50/50. He said he will help me calculate and hire a lawyer if my hb and I can't settle on our own. He mostly spoke of romantic things thou, but when he'd get really drunk - he would start planning again and bringing finances into this, he said he wants me to feel comfortable that I walked out of the marriage with a fair amount, and at the same time telling me that he can support both of us on his income, however he pays 50K in alimony and 50K in college for son. He said I wouldn't have to work, but at the same time he was working on a deal to bring me into the start-up as well. It's all very exciting, good salary, he said he would take me everywhere with him on all business trips around the world and show me places. What is going on here?
Marriage & Divorce - 11 Answers
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1 :
You are sooooo gullable....and the sad part is you are a full grown adult....
2 :
YOU'RE BOTH CRAZY IF YOU THINKS ITS GOING TO WORK OUT!
3 :
HALT! I'm not even going to finish reading your question because I see a huge huuuge red flag in your first sentence. He is living with his exwife who is in her 30's. Interesting. How many other exes does he have? Don't be so dense!!! He's a drifter among younger women and can't stay in one place. Second red flag: wanting to marry you so early. I hope you don't have children and are dragging them through this kind of crap.
4 :
he could be your dad. o.O
5 :
hahaha...
6 :
if he really loves you, he can wait. 1 week is INSANE. and scary!
7 :
omg thats so gross, he definately could be your dad. Plus he is living with his ex who is even younger than you thats like child mulesting =0 get out of this situation now if you know whats good for you, all of us on here know he only wants one thing so stop living in a fantasy world and thinking everything is okay.
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What is going on is this...you are just one of many other women he has told the same story to. If he can afford to keep you and everyone else...then why is he still living with his ex wife....you really need to step back from all of this before you get sucked into this nonsense he is promising you
9 :
I don't know if one week is long enough but I will tell you my story. My wife & I were in our mid 20's when we meet in a bar. We had sex the first night, she moved in with me one week later and we got married within 90 days of knowing each other. Whether it was lust or love at first I don't know but we are still married after many years. It just takes to dedicated people.
10 :
He's living with his ex, you still need to file for divorce.... He's 20 years older and you've know him a week. Yeah - marry him for sure. Then Call Jerry Springer ASAP to book your time slot.
11 :
I honestly think he's just going to use you. He's living with an ex wife that is in her 30s, he probably wants to leave. Also, he's getting up in age so he probably just wants someone to settle down with. You guys wouldn't be getting married for the right reasons at all, and I really don't think this would end up working out in the end. I think if you really care for this man, take things slow. And don't be talking about marriage in the first week. No matter how 'in love' you are. That's always completely unfair to your children. Smarten up. I know hearing these words from this man and not your husband may be the reason you're feeling this way.
